July 2, 2010 - 3 Chairs

SO recently at precamp they had a presenter tell us staff just what we need to be like when we're facing so many different kinds of kids. And a huge part of their presentation was that there were 3 kinds of people when it comes to social relationships. She used 3 different kinds of chairs to demonstrate us these 3.

1. Confidence Lacking

2. Level

3. Egotistical

I have no idea what the real terms were, but this is the jist of it.

1. Confidence Lacking

The name says it all, they have no confidence what-so-ever and are very hard to convince that they have something special about them. They tend to look for egotistical people as friends because they feed off of insults towards them. Sometimes, they are are in this chair, but sometimes, they are egotistical, as a mask of just how unconfident they really are. They know their own faults but do nothing to try and fix them. They also try so hard to please the egotistical people, hoping that one day they would be nice.

3. Egotistical

They insult everyone around them, and have a false sense of price about themselves. Again, this is mostly a shroud of their true feelings that they might not even know, and there's a high chance in different situations they might slip into the "Confidence Lacking" chair. Like Chair 1, they also know their own faults but do not try to fix them. These people are also often jealous of something/someone.

2. Level

These people are the all accepting kinds of people. They don't discriminate and are where most people try (or should) to be in their life. They know their own faults but the difference this time is that they try to fix them. They respect everyone else and has a sense of respect for themselves.

This really inspired me, for the longest time I don't think i've ever been at chair 2. I've been in chair 1 countless times, and chair 3 just as many, but never the position I want to be. I realized I'm such a giant dick to people and can't take a joke for shit, but in different situations, I shut up and am unable to say nething for myself.

But how can u change something that has been part of me since forever? I've got to try at least right? The speaker also said that Chair 1 and 3 usually fail at life goals because they place unrealistic goals on themselves, and they never put small goals for them to achieve. Which again, is a huge problem of mine.

So how am I going to change myself?

I'm not sure how, but i would love to post up small goals later on and try to get them done. 

Another thing they said they needed was to try to escape the old people and try to get as many friends in Chair 2 as possible, as only proper exposure to them will help you as you try to change yourself. So does that mean i have to ditch my old friends?

Hey, maybe they can do this with me.

I just hope that someday I'll be able to sit on that chair, would be nice to stop being so afraid of certain people, and so mean to others.

On a lighter note, i recently bought another lens that can zoom very very far (can't dumb it down any longer), and i realized from my 11th floor balcony, i can be the hugest stalker on the history of the planet. FTW